Free World CLASS Poughkeepsie APP on ALL devices!!

A parting gift from our boys. I just want to say a quiet thank you to all those that gave Poughkeepsie
a chance so early in this Indie Community. Poughkeepsie was published 4 years ago (on Nov. 22, 2011.) Before that, it was online. So the boys have been in our lives, and mine since 2009. Without your imagination and tender hearts they would not have had the rich journey that will now span from their teens into their early thirties. To say thanks from the boys, I wanted to give you access to the Poughkeepsie App, which took a year and a half out of my life. It is a labor of love, that do to certain issues, was only available to iPad users. The links below will only be good for a few weeks, then the app will be removed from online and only available on the iPad again. Anyone with a device that has web access and the ability to run video on it should be able to see the app in its entirety.

Here are some tips for making your experience better:

On Mobile device

~Best in landscape (sideways)

~Navigation is in the right hand corner, but sometimes you have to use your browser to go back to your content after an excerpt.

~USE WIFI! It's a lot of content, so it's best if you don't use it when only using cell service. (Unless you have some kick ass plan, then awesome)

~When you first click on it, you may have to click translate from German. I have no idea why it does this, but you should be able to click through easily.

~Turn up your volume! You don't want to miss a sound or a song.
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~If it has a play triangle, please hit play!

~Touch the red words for comments from me

~Click on EVERYTHING. The words highlighted in black are EXTRA SCENES!

On the web:

~You will need to use my log in code

~Please use the navigation in the right hand side, you may have to use your browser's back button to get back to the main content.

~Turn up your volume! You don't want to miss a sound or a song.
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~If it has a play triangle, please hit play!

~Touch the red words for comments from me

~Click on EVERYTHING. The words highlighted in black are EXTRA SCENES!

I'm so excited to let those of you who have not had a chance get to see it finally.

Okay, here's the log in info:


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Posted by Debra Anastasia on Tuesday, October 6, 2015

Anxiety --an update.

I've mentioned before that my girl has anxiety. It started around the time we had a huge upheaval in our everyday following Hurricane Irene. A large tree hit our house while we were in it, and although we were all safe, the house demolition and subsequent rebuild took a toll on her.  She had her first panic attack soon after.

Before the house was demolished, she left this note on the doorway.

The insurance guy had marked up our walls with a Sharpie, so she asked if she could do so as well on our final tour of the house. I handed her the markers from the pen drawer that I was able to get to. This is what she did on the wall. Soon after the house was demolished.

I wish I had known what to look for with a panic attack, so maybe I could have figured out what it was sooner. If your child is uncharacteristically misbehaving my advice is to look at their eyes and see if their pupils look different. How's their breathing? Do they look scared to death? It might be a panic attack.

I learned, eventually, to spot it. We sought outside help, of course. The counselor we saw gave us tips on how to teach her to calm herself. Breathing, counting and relaxing her muscles were some of the ways we handled attacks. They took a while, usually 40 minutes to settle. Then we'd talk it through.

I should mention that I'm not an expert by any means. But when it involves my kid, I try my best to learn as much as I can. Beautiful souls opened their hearts to me and shared their own experience with anxiety. (You know who you are, and I love you) From 2011 until about six months ago, this was how we battled the attacks.

Then there was a shift. I asked her to embrace the things that caused her panic and face them. That sounds simple, but to avoid comforting her, for me, was really hard. But I realized that cuddling her through her anxiety was feeding it. So we started hugs and snuggles after the panic attack had passed.

I'll use an example, she was afraid of vomiting, and the fear would come on almost every night. I would tell her it wasn't going to happen and hug her until we got through the attack.

The day I realized that I was helping the anxiety by enforcing that vomiting was scary, but she wouldn't have to face it that night was literally like getting hit with mental lightening.

I stopped hugging the anxiety, telling her she didn't need me to get through it. She could do it by herself. And that I hoped she would throw up, so she could see that although it was unpleasant it would make her belly feel better so it didn't deserve fear.  Her sweet face and big green eyes were so shocked. But after her panic attack occurred, we discussed it, with me letting her know that I don't want her to get sick, but I do want her to see that the fear was too big for the reaction.

We liken it to getting chased by a dinosaur, running for your life kind of fear when she is at a level ten panic attack.

Handling her attacks like this became my new handbook. I encouraged her to use her tools (breathing, counting, etc.) but I wouldn't enforce the fear. Maybe I'm just a dumb ass, that it took me long to see the sense in this approach. Maybe she was ready for this stage or a combination of them both.

But she started making progress. Overcoming huge battles. I set some hard lines that I wouldn't compromise for her fear. At first it felt wrong because I always want to protect her, but I realized if I dropped dead, and she had been relying on me to get through her attacks, where would she be? How would she cope?

In the last two weeks, she had two panic attacks. Each one she dealt with on her own and within maybe a minute.

She didn't need me. She could have done it without me, if she had to. Anxiety seemed insurmountable at times. It would be ten steps forward and then 100 steps backward. That's a daunting pace. It's a discouraging pace. But the leap forward that she's had these recent months is fantastic.

I also learned I have a ton to learn. And that anxiety likes to seep in cracks and corrode bravery, so I know this might very well be something she is always coping with. I guess it always will be and I wish it wasn't that way for her. But for her to get a handle on it, to be confident that the attack will happen but that she is stronger than the things she fears, I hope that has a lasting effect on her.

There's parts of her personality that anxiety has strengthened, her empathy, which was already strong is tremendous. She can sympathize with anyone, understanding fear completely. But the bravery she is honing. Watch out world. This girl is going to be a black belt at facing down terrifying things.

This is long and rambling, but I wanted to put it out there that we've had a break through. I thank you all for your endless kind thoughts and wish you a day full of soul strengthening bravery.

My brave, curly whirly girl. So proud of you.

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